Peter Kowalke

6 Ways We Can Spend Time Together Today

By on July 15, 2017

There’s this really awesome, inspiring friend I know who travels the world, creates amazing things and is pretty well loved or admired by all who know him.

I want to spend more time with this guy; he would be a great friend.

There’s only one problem: He’s crazy busy, and everyone wants time with him because he’s so awesome. So I read his newsletter and passively follow him on social media. Occasionally we exchange email, but his answers are short and he’s never available. Half the time I don’t even know how to connect with him because he’s traveling and rarely in my city (and when he is, he’s busy). Blake’s like a virtual friend.

This probably describes me, too.

You’re Awesome

People seem to like me, and they say I radiate and often inspire. But they also don’t know how to connect with me.

I roll into town for a few days, like I did last week in Seattle, and friends either clear their schedule for a “special limited engagement” and then go back to their normal life, or they don’t see me at all because I’m like a rock concert they can’t work into their schedule.

So friends read my newsletter and passively follow me on social media. Occasionally they write me an email, but my answers are short and I never seem available. I’m like a virtual friend.

Six Ways We Can Connect

The truth is that I am pretty busy. But there are plenty of ways we can connect beyond an annual visit and the Facebook news feed. We can get actual face time and sustained interaction. We can work together on something inspiring. We can travel together. We can even live together.

Here are six ways you and I could connect today.

1. Become My Roommate in San Francisco

I need a roommate in San Francisco. Could that be you?

This fall I will be renting a 2-3 bedroom apartment in San Francisco’s Mission District on an ongoing basis. The Mission has some of the best eats in the city, and it is within walking distance of the metro, the park, and only 15-20 minutes from downtown. It also is relatively easy to reach Silicon Valley.

I’m actively looking for a roommate or two. Now’s your chance to live with me and get the full Peter experience. If you’re interested, or know someone who is, let’s talk!

2. Build a Relationship Meetup with Me in the Bay

Like organizing events and creating cool meetups? Want to make the world a better place? Join me in starting a Love & Relationships Meetup group in the Bay.

Last year I almost started a group just like this in Bangkok, but it didn’t quite happen. So I am trying again in San Francisco.

What I have in mind is a group that organizes fun activities built around expanding our relationship skills and the love in our lives. Of course, I have a lot of ideas and techniques for helping us get there.

If you’re an organizer type and live in the San Francisco area, we might have a fun project together.

3. Travel with Me in China

I’ve been almost everywhere in Asia over the past 10 years, but I haven’t been to mainland China. That’s gotta change.

Normally I travel alone and visit locals, but the China experience feels like something best done with a buddy. Are you ready for that adventure?

No date has been fixed, but I’m eying my China trip for either December of this year or some time in 2018.

Come co-create a visit to the Middle Kingdom with me.

4. Join My International Relationship Retreat

Ready for a once-in-a-lifetime experience that you’ll remember fondly and look back on for years? Join me in early 2019 for my international relationship retreat in Thailand.

Three things you know about me: I live in Thailand part of each year, I travel a lot, and I’m a relationship coach. Put them together, and you get one of my most exciting projects right now. The best part is that you can enjoy these things without any work.

I will take care of everything. You get an exotic, exciting vacation. You get an amazing relationship experience that helps you and your relationship grow. You also get to share something really cool with me that we’ll never forget.

I’m still in the early stages of organizing the event, but if you’re interested please let me know so I can keep you updated and give you priority when the event goes on sale; space is limited, and this retreat definitely will sell out.

We will be having both a couples and a curated singles retreat, so let me know if you’re interested even if you are not currently in a relationship.

5. Work with Me (I’m Hiring!)

I run two businesses: a relationship coaching firm and a content creation business from my previous life as a magazine editor. Both firms are hiring.

Wouldn’t it be great if we could work together? That’s the surest way to get face time and interact with me even if I’m busy. Let’s take advantage of the opportunity.

Whether you want freelance work on the side or something more, reach out if any of these sound like you:

  • Tech writer
  • Relationship writer
  • Editor/project manager
  • Videographer
  • Marketer
  • Personal assistant
  • Relationship coach (or allied professional)

6. Get Coached by Me

Is your relationship more of a placeholder than a source of joy and excitement? Want more love and happiness in your life? Feeling stuck? Take a deep-dive with me as one of my coaching clients!

While I’m crazy-busy, clients always get my time, rain or shine. Every week I meet with my clients in person or via Skype, and we build deep connections because we focus on the important stuff.

I’d love an excuse to talk with you every week and get to know you really, really well. If you’re already in my address book, for you I’ll knock 50% off the normal price of coaching.

Seriously. I’d love to have you as a client.

So there are many ways we can go beyond Facebook and this virtual friend thing. Let’s make this happen. And if none of these six opportunities make sense, drop me a line with some ideas of your own. I’m busy and often traveling, but I’m not actually inaccessible. It just seems that way sometimes.

Peter is a relationship coach, writer/producer, and R&D monastic. He splits his time between San Francisco and Asia. Read more about Peter.